I read a post from someone this morning that said The
Greatest Oscar Flub In History was actually a favor to the Moonlight creators,
because they will always be remembered. I call bullshit on this reasoning, and
here is why. By the time any artist of any kind makes it to the Oscars, there
are years, and most of the time there are decades, of work that went into
getting your creativity and talents and blood, sweat, and tears onto this world
stage of achievement. If you are The Winner in your category, you have been
deemed the best of the very best --- that’s why the award categories are Best
Actress, Best Picture, Best Sound Design. And speaking of Best Sound Design…was
there anyone watching who wasn’t moved by Kevin O’Connell’s paying homage to
his late mother, Skippy O’Connell, who gave him his first job in sound 39 years
ago, and told him the only repayment she desired was for him to someday win an
Oscar and then thank him from the stage in front of the world?
"Mom, I know you're looking down on me tonight,"
O'Connell said. "So thank you."
What if this 20 times nominated man hadn’t gotten the moment
he earned to finally thank Mom? It would have been a travesty. It would have
robbed him of making good on what was a truly heartfelt promise. It would have
robbed us all by not allowing us to witness a genuine moment that is at the
heart of every artist who toils and leaves their guts on the page, on the
screen, in the details, because they can’t not do so. It would have robbed all
of the souls behind the artists who toil, because they need to hear how much it
means to have people in your life who believe in you, support you, pick you up
and tell you what you are creating matters.
All of this happened last night when Barry Jenkins, Adele
Romanski, Dede Gardner, and Jeremy Kleiner, along with all of the artists who
gave everything they had to make Moonlight
what it is, were robbed of their soul-nourishing moments of jubilant
celebration upon hearing their names and the name of their film called for what
is the biggest award of the night, saved to the final moments, so highly
anticipated and debated is the win. Yes, they were gracious. Yes, they
ultimately went home with the golden statue. But they were robbed of Their
Moment. They were robbed of the completion of the circle that is the arrival to
Mount Achievement. And we were all robbed of what they had to say, and the
viewpoint that was uniquely their own, with stories of how they arrived to last
night. And in some home, there was a child watching who was robbed of their
moment of connecting with those stories in a way that would remain with them
forever. Remember that bit where Charlize Theron shared the inspiration she
took as a young girl in seeing the performance of Shirley MacLaine in the film The Apartment? I believe that PricewaterhouseCoopers
owes all involved a series of paid advertisements where Barry Jenkins, Adele
Romanski, Dede Gardner, and Jeremy Kleiner each gets to give the Oscar
acceptance speech of their dreams, to be disseminated globally. It won’t be the
same as getting back their moment. But it will give their voices a chance to be
properly and respectfully heard by those who need to hear it.
And, as for Hollywood…maybe take a moment to consider the underbelly of what happened, the why and how. Faye Dunaway and Warren Beatty saw and
read the card that said Emma Stone for LaLaLand. But instead of using the
wisdom of their collective 110 years in show business and well over a hundred
films, including multiple trips to the awards podium, they did what Hollywood,
and our country, often does…stayed quiet in the face of something not quite
right going on, until they were forced to speak up, and then cover the initial
silence with “no harm, no foul, it all works out in the end, honest mistake” business. The fact
that we can still openly support and reward those in our midst who do harm to
others, and tolerate disgusting displays of humanity, as long as the
perpetrator is a talented artist, athlete, business man, politician, etc, is
something that deeply affects our collective moral compass and human reflex to
speak up in the moment we see something isn’t right (Woody Allen, Bill Cosby, Casey Affleck, Roman Polanski, Phil Spector, etc). Dunaway and Beatty didn’t
head out onstage last night to do anyone any harm. I'm certainly not saying that. But their initial silence in
the face of something clearly not being at all right, is a way bigger issue
than anyone seems to be noting or connecting. We all need our reflexes and moral compasses to
fire and direct us in the moment, because those moments truly matter as one
brick encompassing our behaviors and beliefs lays the foundation for the next, and the
next after that. In the end, the Oscars showed us that we need to speak up, and
we need to be heard. The benefits of both make us a better community all the
way around.